How to Write a Dating Profile That Will Get You Dates

There aren’t many situations in life where it’s acceptable to talk at length about yourself to random strangers without pause or interjection. And it’s usually even less socially acceptable to start disclosing your life story, what you’re looking for in a life partner, your ideal date, your music taste, and your favorite movies—in rapid succession—to people you don’t know and have never met.
But there is somewhere where this is all totally normal, where talking about yourself is not only appropriate, but encouraged.
Your online dating profile!

It may seem a bit daunting to dive into explaining so much about yourself and your dreams right away, so I’ve put some tips together to help you out.
Here are some important tips on how to write a dating profile that will help you attract the right people and land a date.
Be genuine
The key to writing a good online dating profile is to be specific about who you are. Nobody likes a profile that sounds as if the writer is tailoring his or her personality to what other people want to hear. Those sorts of generic, essentially meaningless profiles are exactly what don’t catch  someone’s eye online.
Imagine a profile that says:
I’m a nice caring person with a good heart. I am looking for an honest person who likes to have fun.
Seriously, what does that even mean? Everyone thinks they have a good heart (even some really horrible people). Of course this dater is looking for an honest person. What else would someone be looking for, a compulsive liar? And what is fun precisely? Isn’t the concept of fun different for different people? In the end, this profile says essentially nothing. Sure, it might attract some initial responses, but that does nothing toward helping this dater find a real match or create a real connection with someone.
Here’s a better example from a real online dater from the dating site Zoosk:
My Story
I like literature, critical theory, local music and shows, the Criterion Collection, cooking with ingredients most people have never even heard of, creative writing, Virginia Woolf, 4 Barrel Coffee, Baudrillard, pretending that I don’t love the band Journey, attempting to local my zen state, and sleeping in past noon then having coffee on Sundays.
My Perfect Match
An interesting man who knows who Samuel Beckett is, subscribes to similar periodicals as me, and isn’t too cool to dance at a show. Props if you pretentiously bring up Derrida in social situations.
My Ideal Date
Alcohol and feigned indifference. We go for drinks and alternately act interested and completely aloof. It borders on rudeness. Whatever, it’s what I like.
In the profile above, the dater takes time to lay out her personality. You can see that she has fancy taste in films (Criterion Collection), likes to go to shows, and openly admits that she likes critical theory. Some people won’t relate to her at all, but I like this kind of honesty, because she is obviously not trying to please everyone. She is trying to find people who will like her for who she is.
Ain’t no shame in filtering out the rejects!
I believe that an online dating profile should be an honest portrayal of your personality and act as a filter, nixing out all the unwanteds early on. If you look at the profile above, the writer has no shame in saying exactly what it is she’s looking for; if the man doesn’t read the same level of literature that she does then she isn’t interested. It’s probably a little strange to some people, but at least she’s letting the dating pool know what she wants.
It’s always a smart idea to say exactly what it is you do not want right away on our online dating profile. Being forthright and upfront about your desires is not only a good basic practice, but it also saves you and others precious time and energy to get it out right away instead of later on. If you have deal breakers—like smoking, children, or cats—you should write those down in your profile right away. Otherwise you might be in for a sorry surprise later on. The more specific the better.
Here’s an example from another real online dating profile from Zoosk:
My perfect match is an attractive woman who can keep up with me intellectually and conversationally but who doesn’t do so by being pushy or a bully. I really don’t like mean or intolerant people. Matching political/religious views are a plus, but hardly necessary. I suppose my perfect girl is between 25 and 30 and nice to be around. These are just guidelines though so don’t be afraid to write me.
I think these sorts of specifics are really smart. Note that he wrote that he wants a girl “between 25 and 30.” In a few short steps, he’s created age filter and he also mentioned that he prefers people who have matching political and religious views (another filter).
Channel your inner wordsmith
You don’t have to get all Shakespearen on us, but a little oratorical flair never hurts when attracting people to your online dating profile. 
I like this excerpt from another profile:
I love thunderstorms but I can’t live without sunshine. I find beauty in almost everything about this incredible world we live in… I like to swing at the park, play in the snow, and stomp in puddles. I love camping but hate freezing at night.
Take some time to write descriptively. You have no idea how far a tiny bit of eloquence can get you in the world of online dating. Do you like hiking? Don’t just say “I like to hike.” Aim just a bit higher and say something like, “I love the serenity of standing atop a huge mountain, watching the horizon expand before me.” Do you like walks on the beach? Say “There’s nothing more beautiful to me than a beach at sunset, where the stars appear bigger and brighter than everywhere else on earth.” Whatever it is that you have to say, use descriptive language to spice it up.
A little charm goes a long way
If I had to write a list of things that I, particularly, find un-charming, I’d put offensive language, vulgarity, bad spelling, and bad grammar on the top of the list. And somehow, these things occasionally find their way onto people’s’ online dating profiles—which makes me scratch my head and wonder how on earth this could possibly happen. Why would anyone want to date an offensive, vulgar person who has problems communicating effectively? Why would anyone want to present themselves that way?
Ask yourself, when you edit your online dating profile, “Would I date this person?”
There are some important red flags to avoid—angry rants about previous relationships, overboard negativity about your own life, too much disclosure about money or personal finances—when composing your online dating profile. A good rule in determining what kind of content to avoid is a simple reflection on the power of charm.
What kind of people are charming? Generally, they’re positive, friendly, and humble. Charming people have the undeniable ability to attract others to them. They are, simply put, fun to be around. We know each and every person has the ability to be charming. It isn’t particularly difficult. All it takes is a certain level of mindfulness and a little bit of effort. And charm will go a long way with your fellow daters.

The Top 3 Things Men Want You to Know During Sex

As a woman, you’ve got little to go on when it comes to knowing what men are thinking at any given time. Does he like your new haircut? Is he planning on taking you out for Valentine’s Day? Did he hear what you just said?
Who knows.

But during sex, the male mystery gets really…real. You’re rolling around in the sheets together, naked, completely vulnerable, and you’ve got no earthly idea what he’s thinking!
Well, straight from the horse’s mouth, here are the 3 things that men are desperate for you to know about during sex.
1. “We’re worried what you think of our bodies.”
 We hear a lot of women say they’re nervous about their bodies during sex. But are we considering the shape of your breasts or the fact that you’ve got a little stubble down there? No, we are most definitely not worrying or even thinking about these things. If we’re having sex with you, you look … amazing.
 With that being said, we are pretty self-conscious about our own looks. It has a lot to do with whether we have man boobs or a beer gut, but mostly it’s about how big we are. We want to know how we measure up—literally—and it freaks us out that we may be on the small side.
 The stats say it all. In a 2015 study from the British Journal of Urology*, the majority of men polled were sure that their penis was smaller than they were in reality. So if we seem a little tense, that’s probably what we’re freaking out about.
2. “We’re just as into cuddling as you are.”
 You know those romantic comedies where the guy can’t stand cuddling and just wants sex? Inaccurate. In fact, we love a good cuddle. A study from the Archives of Sexual Behavior actually found that men see cuddling as more important in a relationship than sex*.
 Listen, if we’re dating, we like you. We want to be around you. And we probably want to be touching you as much as humanly possible. So it makes sense that being sidled up against you under a cozy blanket on the couch or lying in bed is just about the best case scenario for us, and we love it.
3. “We’re more alike when it comes to sex than you think.”
 Men have a rap for being sex maniacs. The trope is that at any given moment, our minds are buzzing with images of breasts, vaginas and flexible bedroom positions. Ok. This may be true sometimes. But really, there’s more going on in there than you know.
 Women are emotional beings, and we get that. But we have emotions too; the truth is we just show them differently. While you may be able to gush a whole paragraph about how you feel, we may only be able to muster a, “I really like you a lot.” That sentence may seem dull and short to you, but it took everything we had to get it out, and we really meant it. We’re just as complex and emotional as you. We just often don’t express it the same way you do.

9 Weirdest Signs Someone Will Be Good In Bed

It’s hard to tell just by looking at someone whether or not they’re good in bed. Looks don’t mean a thing when it comes to bedroom skills and I think it’s pretty much a given that egomaniacs and narcissists are totally selfish in the sack, too. However, there's no hard scientific research that says yes, a person that does XYZ and looks like XYZ will totally be amazing in bed. That’s just not how life works.

If you look to some relationship experts, weird signs that show people, men specifically, are good in bed can range from the fact that he bites his nails to his “loopy handwriting” to the fact that he easily succumbs to road rage. While these are interesting thoughts, how they have anything to do with what goes down in bed doesn't add up. If anything, someone who easily gets pissed off while in traffic is not the type of person I want to have sex with or even date, for that matter. 1
But there are a handful of weird, somewhat obscure signs, that can give you a heads up as to whether someone is good in bed or not. There's no guarantee, of course — and we all have different sexual tastes and desires. Here are nine weird things to keep an eye out for when looking for a good lay. But first, check out our video on sex positions to last longer in bed:
1. They’re Not Afraid Of Eye Contact
Eye contact is everything. From the moment you first meet someone to the moment you get into bed with them. If they can keep eye contact, they're engaged and paying attention to you. Who doesn't want that in bed?
2. They Love Coffee Ice Cream
According to a 2013 study by Alan Hirsch, M.D., neurologist and psychiatrist at the Smell and Taste Institute in Chicago, those who prefer coffee ice cream make for great lovers. “They aren’t concerned about the future and thrive on the passion of the moment,” says Hirsch. And we all know that being good in bed means being totally in the moment.
3. They Have A Bunch Of Books In Their Place
We can thank legendary filmmaker, John Waters, for this important point: “If you go home with somebody and they don't have books, don't f*ck them.” What does that mean exactly? People who love to read yearn to explore other worlds, get lost in other dimensions, continue to learn, and grow as human beings. This is someone you probably want in your bed.
4. They Enjoy Taking Risks 
Studies have found that fear is a natural aphrodisiac. Whether that fear comes from sky diving or walking across a rickety bridge in the middle of the Amazon, the feeling that comes with it is quite a turn-on. That being said, those who are adventurous and love to take risks are likely to be better in bed, because they live for being thrilled — and scared a bit too.
5. They’re Passionate About Food
Food and sex go hand-in-hand. Research has found that romance isn’t very appetizing when you’re hungry and when you’re first in love, you’re not so hungry because you’re full of love… or more specifically phenylethylamine and norepinephrine, which lessen our need for food because we’re too high on being in love thanks to these chemicals. There’s also the fact that one who’s passionate about food eats slower, so as to enjoy every bite. According to Candida Royalle, producer of femme-friendly adult films, this is a good sign: "If someone eats slowly, it's likely that they like to make love for a long time.”
6. They’re Good Dancers 
According to anthropologist, Dr. Helen Fisher, how someone dances can definitely be a big sign about how they might be in bed. As Fisher told Men’s Health, "There is a certain amount of dance to copulation. And dancing is energetic, which suggests someone who's in good shape. But I think what's really going on is that dancing indicates someone who's social and self-confident." Which brings me to…
7. They’re Confident (But Don’t Brag)
If someone is confident in their own skin outside the bedroom, then you know they’re sure as hell confident inside the bedroom, too. The only thing that can mess that up is if they brag — especially about how good they are in bed. No one who is good in bed brags about it. It just doesn’t happen.
8. They Know How To Take It Easy 
Although Dr. Fisher used the example of older women being more relaxed than younger women, therefore making them better in bed, the relaxation element can play in most people's favor. Anyone who’s relaxed is more likely to have a good time, orgasm more easily, and be a great sexual partner. We already know that stress and anxiety are bad for your sex drive.
9. They’re Left Handed
According to a 2014 study by LELO, when it comes to sexual satisfaction, 86 percent of left-handed people reported being “extremely satisfied" sexually, while only 15 percent of right-handed people could say the same. Although the reason for this isn’t exactly clear, the fact remains that lefties live in a sexually satisfied world and that's a world you probably want to live in, too.

6 Moves for Better Sex

Tired of the standard guy on top, girl on bottom? These creative sex moves will put a new twist on missionary style
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Missionary is the Jan Brady of sex positions—dismissed as plain and boring, never picked first, forever in the shadow of flashier poses such as girl on top, from behind, and reverse cowgirl.
But it shouldn't be. "Most people don't realize that because missionary allows for a lot of variation, it exposes your nerves to a wider range of sensations and is surprisingly orgasm-friendly," says Lori Buckley, Psy.D., a licensed sex therapist in Pasadena, California. Which explains why 33 percent of women say missionary is their favorite position, according to a recent study published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine. (Guys dig it too—being on top typically lets them control the pace and prolong their orgasm.) Amp up the experience with these hot new twists to the carnal classic.
Rock the Boat
Missionary gets flack for not allowing for much clitoral contact, but one simple adjustment can remedy that. Experts call it "the coital alignment technique" (a.k.a. "the cat"). While he's on top of you, have him scoot up two inches so that the base of his penis is directly aligned with your clitoris, says sex therapist Ian Kerner, Ph.D., author of She Comes First. Then, with your legs wrapped around his thighs, press your genitals together so you create pressure and counterpressure, moving in a gentle rocking motion (as opposed to in and out). Your clitoris will let you know when you've got it right.
Go Deep
While he's on top, draw your knees toward your chest (you can grab the back of your thighs for support) and place one or both of your feet flat on his chest. "Doing so puts the tip of his penis in direct contact with your cervix, a sensation many women find pleasurable," says Sadie Allison, D.H.S., author of Ride 'Em Cowgirl.
Take Control
Just because you're on the bottom doesn't mean you can't call the shots. Throw one of your legs over his shoulder while you keep the other one stretched straight out on the bed (or bent, with your foot planted firmly on the mattress). At your own pace, keep switching your legs so that one is over his shoulder and the other is on the bed. The up-and-down motion of your legs creates a pleasurable sweeping sensation over the G-spot zone, says Kerner.
Bring Him to His Knees
Awaken a whole new set of nerves by tweaking the angle of penetration. "Lie down and have your guy kneel between your legs while sitting back so that his butt is resting on his ankles," suggests certified sex educator Lou Paget, author of The Great Lover Playbook. "He can use the strength of his thighs to push forward and thrust, or grab your hips with his hands to control the pace." This position stimulates your lower vaginal wall, which contains nerves that are often neglected during plain old missionary. If orgasm still eludes you, grab a vibrator or squeeze a little lube onto your fingertips and give yourself a hand as he thrusts.
Straighten Up
It sounds counterintuitive, but keeping your legs closed can actually boost your pleasure. Once he's inside you, bring your legs together (keep them straight) so that his legs are on the outside of yours. Then squeeze your thighs together to create friction against his shaft and your vaginal lips while he grinds (not thrusts) into your goods. "The entrance to the vagina—namely the outer and inner labia—is packed with nerve endings that are activated by this type of shallow penetration," says Allison. You can also reach back and grab your headboard or place your palms against the wall for even more resistance and friction.
Give Yourself Props
The hottest sex toy is sitting right there on your bed. "Place a pillow under your lower back to tilt your vagina upward," says Paget. "His penis will hit that top frontal wall where the G-spot is located." For extra pleasure, try placing your palms on his butt to control the pace and rhythm of movement.

Secret Date

Take advantage of the benefits offered by the Secret Date in relation to a single party or
a single trip. You can with several potential partners at the same time have contact,
without anyone knowing. Sprinkle initial inquiries and then you can focus on the really
interesting contacts. Be creative when recording contract. Standard texts and memorized
Flirt sayings come to not good online. Take some time and look at the profile of your love very
carefully, then you can write your first message to Mrs. or Mr. Right. The chances are that you
will get an answer much faster. For who are already addressed with any phrase? Much nicer is
if it is an original letter, which perhaps contains some initial pointers, so just to talk about
similarities and common interests can.
Another point that should be considered in finding a partner over the Internet, are compliments.
It is much easier, compliments to send by e-mail than they do in person, the latter is fürür but
much nicer. So you should be frugal and start with decent compliments, it does not intrusive.

Off thinking

First I'm something special, me there is only one
Second Naturalness is the key
Third always stay loose, we are not in the job interview
4th have fun
5th draw their attention to themselves, they create curiosity (but remain honest!)
6th often times change what the profile
7th the photo is your ticket, if it is worth the visit to a photographer

Watch out

First Always remain polite
Second if it does not fit, simply write a rejection
Third Safety note, a not exaggerated distrust helps
4th Bumble undesirable
5th Rein in expectations, at some point it fits
6th not equal to blab everything
7th get familiar with the chat rules