Dating is mental stress! Always on the lookout for Mr. Right, and if you have a true eeeeendlich
then that you find nice, of course, the pressure is enormous: Will he like me? Will we see
ourselves? What can I tell? And what he will think if ... STOP! Do not make it so difficult
for yourself! Beforehand to stress already and to cramp, does nothing - except that it
reduces your chances of a successful rendezvous enormous! We will help you get away from
the worries, even "That certainly is a great evening". So it is then determined and
the second date.
No. 1 worry: "Am I his type?"
Before the first date to make a lot of singles thoughts: Whether he is bring? Maybe I'm him too
blonde? Too big? Too fat? Too thin? To succeed? Start does not even like that! First, there is
indeed a good reason why you have another appointment. Mutual sympathy is rarely the motivation.
And furthermore, you can not know it before, no matter how much you are racking their brains as
well. But most importantly: What's wrong with your preferences? Perhaps He will be blond, too big,
too thick or too thin!
When dating it is finally not least about what you think of your opponent, if you can imagine
something together or not. Go completely different approach to the evening and behave as if it
were his test - and not yours! So you can sit back and relax to see what will happen. And by
the way: If he finds you stupid, is not bad at all! Then, they know immediately where you are and
need to imagine a common future - in case of doubt the feeling is mutual anyway.
Concern No. 2: "I'm going to embarrass myself for sure!"
They are afraid of sheer nervousness turn throw a glass, tangled themselves in speaking or
slapstick moderately tripping over the sidewalk? Just go just assume that something will happen
in the direction! Because the first awkward moment is over, but it can only get better.
You just have no fear that your date you as a man with "errors" (or a piece of arugula between
the teeth) is responsible - which are now at times to everyone.
If your partner is any good, you can make your faux pas - weglachen together - and hopefully not
too tense excitement of the first date. And something should be from both of you, you will
definitely like to think back to the funny story of your first date!
Concern # 3: "What if he wants more than me?"
It's your first date and you quickly realize that he is more interested in you than you. Him Now
you are worried that you might hurt his feelings because you do not answer? Well, that's
life - and this too can be a risk eventually go even if you go on the singles market. With a
first date,you have still not signed a prenuptial agreement anyway. Instead, therefore, to make
you crazy, why not consider it positive that the faster your partner knows what he is,
the sooner he can complete the deal.
They are neither cold nor heartless, just because you see no future together - and, ideally,
you are dealing with an adult who understands and does not mind breaking that a single meeting
goes nowhere. Just say directly what is going on: that you are not interested in a next date!
This shows him that you respect him and did not want to hold out or waste his time.
Concern No. 4: "Warning: pitfalls!"
Your date mentions the name of a heavy metal group, and you interrupt him by saying,
"Is the music not a single injury?" It follows embarrassed silence - he really wanted to
invite them namely, to go with him to a concert of his "favorite band" ... As the saying goes?
Shit happens! Tastes are different and he may certainly not everything you love it.
You might accidentally insulted him, but that is no doom.
So instead of having a red face herumzustammeln, you would not mean it, the band was good but
somehow the whole thing live and determined to hear very different, try it with the magic formula:
"Excuse me!" You must not be in all respects the same opinion ... If he just looks,
he will accept your apology, he still remains insulted, had it with you two do not work anyway.
Concern No. 5: It shall be automatically
The conversation comes to a halt and your date you on silent. Your silence is terrible unangehem,
you have always been bad at small talk and, as excited as you are, you begin to shake off
the cuff topics - topics for a first date are really much too personally. Do that! It is not your
job to keep the conversation going. A lull in the conversation need not be unpleasant. And if she
really is, talk it simply!
It may be that your partner is also a little cramped, but if the topic is even on the table,
the mood relaxes perhaps even. Some people find it helps incidentally, is à before the meeting
talk activating la questions "How do you spend most like your Saturday afternoon?" or
"What are you planning to travel this year?" to think. Sometimes works wonders!
Concern No. 6: "The adoption ..."
Your date is coming to an end, and every minute you fear the moment of the break walking more.
Whether he wants to see me again well - and will ask for it? Should I ask for it, I want at all,
and as I say it, if not? Will he kiss me good - or should I? Do not panic, just follow your gut!
If you want to see him again, thank him politely for the evening and leave you determined.
If you both had fun, it is the modern communication Thank definitely come to another meeting.
So you do not have to rush and already on the landing your doorstep schedule another appointment.
If you do not know if mounted a kiss or would be rash to, give your date a motivating smile and
show him that you have enjoyed the evening - now he will feel secure enough to take
the initiative without fear of rejection . If they can not for a kiss, then determines the next
time - and you also still have something you can look forward to!
