The Top 3 Things Men Want You to Know During Sex

As a woman, you’ve got little to go on when it comes to knowing what men are thinking at any given time. Does he like your new haircut? Is he planning on taking you out for Valentine’s Day? Did he hear what you just said?
Who knows.

But during sex, the male mystery gets really…real. You’re rolling around in the sheets together, naked, completely vulnerable, and you’ve got no earthly idea what he’s thinking!
Well, straight from the horse’s mouth, here are the 3 things that men are desperate for you to know about during sex.
1. “We’re worried what you think of our bodies.”
 We hear a lot of women say they’re nervous about their bodies during sex. But are we considering the shape of your breasts or the fact that you’ve got a little stubble down there? No, we are most definitely not worrying or even thinking about these things. If we’re having sex with you, you look … amazing.
 With that being said, we are pretty self-conscious about our own looks. It has a lot to do with whether we have man boobs or a beer gut, but mostly it’s about how big we are. We want to know how we measure up—literally—and it freaks us out that we may be on the small side.
 The stats say it all. In a 2015 study from the British Journal of Urology*, the majority of men polled were sure that their penis was smaller than they were in reality. So if we seem a little tense, that’s probably what we’re freaking out about.
2. “We’re just as into cuddling as you are.”
 You know those romantic comedies where the guy can’t stand cuddling and just wants sex? Inaccurate. In fact, we love a good cuddle. A study from the Archives of Sexual Behavior actually found that men see cuddling as more important in a relationship than sex*.
 Listen, if we’re dating, we like you. We want to be around you. And we probably want to be touching you as much as humanly possible. So it makes sense that being sidled up against you under a cozy blanket on the couch or lying in bed is just about the best case scenario for us, and we love it.
3. “We’re more alike when it comes to sex than you think.”
 Men have a rap for being sex maniacs. The trope is that at any given moment, our minds are buzzing with images of breasts, vaginas and flexible bedroom positions. Ok. This may be true sometimes. But really, there’s more going on in there than you know.
 Women are emotional beings, and we get that. But we have emotions too; the truth is we just show them differently. While you may be able to gush a whole paragraph about how you feel, we may only be able to muster a, “I really like you a lot.” That sentence may seem dull and short to you, but it took everything we had to get it out, and we really meant it. We’re just as complex and emotional as you. We just often don’t express it the same way you do.

9 Weirdest Signs Someone Will Be Good In Bed

It’s hard to tell just by looking at someone whether or not they’re good in bed. Looks don’t mean a thing when it comes to bedroom skills and I think it’s pretty much a given that egomaniacs and narcissists are totally selfish in the sack, too. However, there's no hard scientific research that says yes, a person that does XYZ and looks like XYZ will totally be amazing in bed. That’s just not how life works.

If you look to some relationship experts, weird signs that show people, men specifically, are good in bed can range from the fact that he bites his nails to his “loopy handwriting” to the fact that he easily succumbs to road rage. While these are interesting thoughts, how they have anything to do with what goes down in bed doesn't add up. If anything, someone who easily gets pissed off while in traffic is not the type of person I want to have sex with or even date, for that matter. 1
But there are a handful of weird, somewhat obscure signs, that can give you a heads up as to whether someone is good in bed or not. There's no guarantee, of course — and we all have different sexual tastes and desires. Here are nine weird things to keep an eye out for when looking for a good lay. But first, check out our video on sex positions to last longer in bed:
1. They’re Not Afraid Of Eye Contact
Eye contact is everything. From the moment you first meet someone to the moment you get into bed with them. If they can keep eye contact, they're engaged and paying attention to you. Who doesn't want that in bed?
2. They Love Coffee Ice Cream
According to a 2013 study by Alan Hirsch, M.D., neurologist and psychiatrist at the Smell and Taste Institute in Chicago, those who prefer coffee ice cream make for great lovers. “They aren’t concerned about the future and thrive on the passion of the moment,” says Hirsch. And we all know that being good in bed means being totally in the moment.
3. They Have A Bunch Of Books In Their Place
We can thank legendary filmmaker, John Waters, for this important point: “If you go home with somebody and they don't have books, don't f*ck them.” What does that mean exactly? People who love to read yearn to explore other worlds, get lost in other dimensions, continue to learn, and grow as human beings. This is someone you probably want in your bed.
4. They Enjoy Taking Risks 
Studies have found that fear is a natural aphrodisiac. Whether that fear comes from sky diving or walking across a rickety bridge in the middle of the Amazon, the feeling that comes with it is quite a turn-on. That being said, those who are adventurous and love to take risks are likely to be better in bed, because they live for being thrilled — and scared a bit too.
5. They’re Passionate About Food
Food and sex go hand-in-hand. Research has found that romance isn’t very appetizing when you’re hungry and when you’re first in love, you’re not so hungry because you’re full of love… or more specifically phenylethylamine and norepinephrine, which lessen our need for food because we’re too high on being in love thanks to these chemicals. There’s also the fact that one who’s passionate about food eats slower, so as to enjoy every bite. According to Candida Royalle, producer of femme-friendly adult films, this is a good sign: "If someone eats slowly, it's likely that they like to make love for a long time.”
6. They’re Good Dancers 
According to anthropologist, Dr. Helen Fisher, how someone dances can definitely be a big sign about how they might be in bed. As Fisher told Men’s Health, "There is a certain amount of dance to copulation. And dancing is energetic, which suggests someone who's in good shape. But I think what's really going on is that dancing indicates someone who's social and self-confident." Which brings me to…
7. They’re Confident (But Don’t Brag)
If someone is confident in their own skin outside the bedroom, then you know they’re sure as hell confident inside the bedroom, too. The only thing that can mess that up is if they brag — especially about how good they are in bed. No one who is good in bed brags about it. It just doesn’t happen.
8. They Know How To Take It Easy 
Although Dr. Fisher used the example of older women being more relaxed than younger women, therefore making them better in bed, the relaxation element can play in most people's favor. Anyone who’s relaxed is more likely to have a good time, orgasm more easily, and be a great sexual partner. We already know that stress and anxiety are bad for your sex drive.
9. They’re Left Handed
According to a 2014 study by LELO, when it comes to sexual satisfaction, 86 percent of left-handed people reported being “extremely satisfied" sexually, while only 15 percent of right-handed people could say the same. Although the reason for this isn’t exactly clear, the fact remains that lefties live in a sexually satisfied world and that's a world you probably want to live in, too.

6 Moves for Better Sex

Tired of the standard guy on top, girl on bottom? These creative sex moves will put a new twist on missionary style
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Missionary is the Jan Brady of sex positions—dismissed as plain and boring, never picked first, forever in the shadow of flashier poses such as girl on top, from behind, and reverse cowgirl.
But it shouldn't be. "Most people don't realize that because missionary allows for a lot of variation, it exposes your nerves to a wider range of sensations and is surprisingly orgasm-friendly," says Lori Buckley, Psy.D., a licensed sex therapist in Pasadena, California. Which explains why 33 percent of women say missionary is their favorite position, according to a recent study published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine. (Guys dig it too—being on top typically lets them control the pace and prolong their orgasm.) Amp up the experience with these hot new twists to the carnal classic.
Rock the Boat
Missionary gets flack for not allowing for much clitoral contact, but one simple adjustment can remedy that. Experts call it "the coital alignment technique" (a.k.a. "the cat"). While he's on top of you, have him scoot up two inches so that the base of his penis is directly aligned with your clitoris, says sex therapist Ian Kerner, Ph.D., author of She Comes First. Then, with your legs wrapped around his thighs, press your genitals together so you create pressure and counterpressure, moving in a gentle rocking motion (as opposed to in and out). Your clitoris will let you know when you've got it right.
Go Deep
While he's on top, draw your knees toward your chest (you can grab the back of your thighs for support) and place one or both of your feet flat on his chest. "Doing so puts the tip of his penis in direct contact with your cervix, a sensation many women find pleasurable," says Sadie Allison, D.H.S., author of Ride 'Em Cowgirl.
Take Control
Just because you're on the bottom doesn't mean you can't call the shots. Throw one of your legs over his shoulder while you keep the other one stretched straight out on the bed (or bent, with your foot planted firmly on the mattress). At your own pace, keep switching your legs so that one is over his shoulder and the other is on the bed. The up-and-down motion of your legs creates a pleasurable sweeping sensation over the G-spot zone, says Kerner.
Bring Him to His Knees
Awaken a whole new set of nerves by tweaking the angle of penetration. "Lie down and have your guy kneel between your legs while sitting back so that his butt is resting on his ankles," suggests certified sex educator Lou Paget, author of The Great Lover Playbook. "He can use the strength of his thighs to push forward and thrust, or grab your hips with his hands to control the pace." This position stimulates your lower vaginal wall, which contains nerves that are often neglected during plain old missionary. If orgasm still eludes you, grab a vibrator or squeeze a little lube onto your fingertips and give yourself a hand as he thrusts.
Straighten Up
It sounds counterintuitive, but keeping your legs closed can actually boost your pleasure. Once he's inside you, bring your legs together (keep them straight) so that his legs are on the outside of yours. Then squeeze your thighs together to create friction against his shaft and your vaginal lips while he grinds (not thrusts) into your goods. "The entrance to the vagina—namely the outer and inner labia—is packed with nerve endings that are activated by this type of shallow penetration," says Allison. You can also reach back and grab your headboard or place your palms against the wall for even more resistance and friction.
Give Yourself Props
The hottest sex toy is sitting right there on your bed. "Place a pillow under your lower back to tilt your vagina upward," says Paget. "His penis will hit that top frontal wall where the G-spot is located." For extra pleasure, try placing your palms on his butt to control the pace and rhythm of movement.